|Dex and Emma in a scene from the movie "One Day".|
A Heavenly Father would content,
Had He the offer of;
You left me boundaries of pain
Your consciouness and me.
This is one of my favorite poems by Emily Dickinson, a poet who says so much in a few words. She writes small poems with huge meanings. And she teaches us that life is more complex than we sometimes take the time to realize.
This movie is so sad and tragic that I wasn't able to leave the film feeling good. It is definitely not a feel good movie. All I could do was observe and feel the love and the pain of Emma and Dex. And, that is why I question the legacy that we leave to others. Will my enduring legacy be one of love or one of pain? I hope it is the former, but I have the feeling that, inadvertantly, I also may, at times, leave boundaries of pain.
I always believed that each one of us determined our own destiny in life. It all comes down to choices. What choices did I consciously make that determined my destiny? What choices will I make in the future that will further determine my destiny? This movie got me thinking that it isn't all me or the choices I make that totally determines my destiny in this world. Sometimes, as I saw with Emma and Dex, there were times when the uncontrollable actions of others, or an answered phone call, or an unanswered phone call, or a late bus, or an early visit, or a missed visit, made all the difference in the outcome of their lives, hence their destinies. So, there is an element of uncontollable incidents that enters the equasion equaling what our destiny ultimately becomes. And, I guess my question is again, when we reach that destiny or complete that destiny, have we left a legacy of love or a legacy of pain behind?